As a Christian, I believe my life is in God’s hands, (Jeremiah 18:6 ‘You are like the clay in the potter’s hands’) and when I remember that, I relax and rest more easily. When I “take my life into my own hands” I can very easily and quickly lose my peace. That very expression is used in a negative sense to convey great risk and an endangering of one’s life. Why can I have peace knowing my life is in God’s hands? Because the One who withheld nothing, not even His only Son, to provide the salvation I needed, why would He not then provide whatever else I need in this life (and thereafter)?… And my experience is that He has consistently been with me, led me, guided me and provided for me in every season of my life. Before you get the idea that I’ve had an easy life, not experienced stress or pain, and not had challenges in my life… That’s quite far from the truth…
I have needed the comfort of His Presence and the reassurance of His Words spoken into my spirit, mind, heart and life more times than I would’ve chosen if I was in control. However I am very glad that I’m not in control. I am not God (obviously) and if I was to control my life it would be motivated mostly by selfishness because that’s where we live from, from self, our own lives, experiences etc. Given the chance we’d like to avoid pain, loneliness, rejection, feelings of powerlessness, being misunderstood, not being able to help and heal our loved ones or even ourselves… However all of these can lead us straight into the wide open arms of our God, can cause our hearts to search for His strength, our minds to search for His wisdom, our feet to search for His guidance and when we seek, we are much more likely to find.
“Do you trust me?” At the end of the day, whenever I have an anxious moment or a decision that needs to be made, this is the question my loving Father asks me. And yes, I do. I trust Him more than I trust myself. His motives are always pure, He sees what’s best for everyone, He sees the end from the beginning. He has proved Himself faithful throughout the 30 years I’ve known Him. If you find yourself struggling, as a Christian single ask yourself, whose hands am I in? Then take a deep breath, relax and keep on going! And whatever you do, don’t take your life into your own hands, instead take His hand. “I am the Lord, your God, who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, “Do not fear; I will help you.” Isaiah 41:13
In Christ you are in the safest hands.
What areas can you think of, as a Christian single, where you are sometimes tempted to take matters into your own hands? What could be the outcome of such a decision? When Joseph, (Genesis 39) a single man, was approached repeatedly by his boss, Potiphar’s wife, he repeatedly refused to sin with her. He could’ve thought, well God’s not provided a wife for me or looked after me well, here I am working for someone else, I might as well…. But no he fled from the temptation and chose to honour God even when it looked like God was not honouring Joseph. Joseph was “rewarded” with prison for doing the right thing. Sometimes our situations seem to go from bad to worse, even when we’re doing everything right. But we all know that in the end, as Joseph consistently chose to live in a way that honoured and pleased his God, the harvest of outrageous blessing came to his own personal life (and his families and entire nations were blessed through him… how differently could this story have ended if Joseph would’ve made different decisions?). But that was Joseph’s story, Joseph didn’t know what was on the other side of his obedience, self control and godly character. We don’t know what will be on the other side of ours but I believe that just Joseph knowing that he did the right thing in numerous situations, allowed him to live with a great inner peace. No matter what anyone else knows, we know who we are and we have to live with ourselves 24/7. Thank God for His amazing grace and forgiveness and the blood of Jesus that can cleanse us from all our sins, but thank God also for the opportunity we have to make the right choices in our lives as singles and the grace and help of the Holy Spirit to empower us.